Orgasms are the pinnacle of sexual intercourse; if there’s one skill that every woman and man should know in bed, it should be how to achieve orgasms. The big O can be elusive and can slip away fast if you let it. If you’re looking for tips on how to achieve it, here are a few that you can try. Not all women are the same, so what works for one may not work for another, but the fun is in trying!

Stop concentrating on when to climax

It takes away from the passion in bed and can have negative results on your relationship. Getting stressed about timing can destroy the fun of sex. Focus on what you’re feeling, the heat, and the sensations throughout your body.

Love the friction

Try other positions that give your man a great experience and help you to experience more friction. Sex is great at all angles, but there are positions that maximize G-spot stimulation.

• The girl-on-top position naturally rubs the clitoris which helps to achieve big orgasms.
• Missionary position is the position that women enjoy most.
• Try the reverse cowgirl position and see how being in control make you feel powerful and ready to explode!

Try something new that you had inhibitions about before

Getting over taboo topics can transform your sex life. Don’t be afraid to experiment with new positions, such as those depicted in the Kama Sutra. Explore different positions and variations to see which one works best for you. Try voyeurism, watching porn and role playing. With each different approach, you’ll see how your body responds and discover new ways to achieve amazing orgasms.

Build up the desire and tension on your muscles

Relaxing is the first step to truly detaching yourself from everyday stress and focus on the moment, but the key to achieving orgasm is muscle tension in your abdominal, butt and leg areas.

How do you create tension in those areas of your body? Simple enough, by arousal; this is why foreplay is very important. Try something different beforehand. Send steamy messages to your partner early in the day and see how they respond. Read some erotica to stimulate your imagination.

Get to know your G-spot

Not all women are the same when it comes to arousal. There are certain positions that stimulate your nerves fast, and there are topics that just trigger your sensuality. So don’t be afraid to try new things. Tell your partner what you enjoy most about sex and what you’d like to try. Get familiarized with areas in your body that give you those delicious sensations.